OK, so basically I wanted an outlet to put down my thoughts on how the re-definition of marriage transpired.
I think I covered most things, but in re-reading and reflecting what I have written, there are a couple things that I want to add to wrap things up.
I’ve alluded to this general theme throughout, I guess, but I really just want to emphasize how critical it is that we tie the purpose of marriage together with what marriage actually is. We need a triple-knot on this. The entire idea of what people think marriage is meant to be directly affects what they think marriage should look like.
The current debate has almost completely normalized the idea, even among Christian folk who should know better, that marriage is an avenue of self-fulfillment. Some may view this as just one aspect of marriage, but many view this as the primary purpose. This is truly upside-down thinking, but it is the predominant view.
Thinking about Jesus washing the feet of the Apostles and then dying on the cross for His Church, marriage is supposed to emulate Jesus as the bridegroom and the Church as bride. Are either side in that equation concerned primarily with self-fulfillment? No. Jesus died for His Church and the Church has suffered countless martyrs that were/are persecuted and even sent to death for Christ.
Yes, marriage is about love. But not “Sleepless in Seattle” romantic love. That provides a wonderful element to a good marriage relationship, but it is a byproduct of it and not the purpose of it.
All the things I wrote about, in one way or another, center around the transition from marriage as being about sacrificial love for another and instead to companionship and self-fulfillment. This then directly leads to a complete abandonment of the idea that begetting children is a necessary element to marriage.
If this is what marriage is all about (or not about), it is no surprise whatever that people can come to grips with and accept gay marriage. After all, it’s not about having kids, and each person just wants to be loved and have companionship and be happy. And that’s all marriage is, so there you go.
I already discussed the evolution of acceptance of homosexuality as a lifestyle alternative. Underlying this acceptance is either a real or perceived increase in people who are actually gay. Some would argue that there is no percentage difference in the number of gay people, only that they are now more willing to be open about it, thanks to our newly open and progressive society. I think there’s probably truth to the fact that people who are gay are much less likely nowadays to hide it or suppress it, but I also think there are factors that have actually increased the numbers of people who are gay from the viewpoint of genetic predisposition, as well as those who are steered that way due to a culture that almost seems to prefer that a person seek out every alternative than a heterosexual and monogamous lifestyle.
I already discussed one factor: fewer dads and less fatherly availability is directly linked as a factor in men being gay. It could be entirely environmental, or it could be a factor in driving a person towards a genetic predisposition.
Another factor that has been studied and confirmed, and then basically suppressed as explanatory is the hormonal pollution of the water supply, particularly in more populous areas. And what is the hormonal pollution from? The birth control pill, primarily. It is an interesting irony that one of the outcomes of a society that embraces the temporary sterilizing of itself is that it leads to more people who desire relationships that are, by their very nature, sterile.
There really are more issues that are ancillary to all of this that help fill in even more gaps. The fact that we now procreate in ways that fall outside of the unitive act of marriage in turn devalues the family. It is no longer from an act of unitive love, it is a scientific process. Don’t even get me started on frozen embryos.
And then there’s abortion. As if it isn’t enough to prevent the conceiving of a life, we somehow managed to convince ourselves that it isn’t really a human life after all, and we can just do away with it. An entire class of people just dehumanized. There is simply no way 50 million plus abortions can occur with it taking a toll on marriages and what people believe is true of marriage.
I’m sure more could be added to the list. But I think I’ve said my piece. I’ll move on to other things, or at least different aspects of this thing.